Monday, January 30, 2017

The Lessons you learn when you are given an expiration date

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This past year has certainly been the most challenging so far in my life.  For those that don’t know I was diagnosed with stage 4 colorectal cancer just about a year ago.  In that meeting the doctor speculated I had somewhere between 6 and 24 months left.  This diagnosis wasn’t necessarily on my new year’s resolution list.   I had only been in the hospital one night in my life for wisdom teeth removal. 

The word spread and before I knew it I was the center of attention.  People were sending notes and calling that they were adding me to their prayer groups, family was scheduling time to come and stay with me and friends were bringing meals and other things to the house.  This …. was out of my comfort zone. 

The Sunday before I went in for surgery a new program called the Journey was starting with our congregation.   As I sat in the church Pastor Mark encouraged everyone to take the first step, praying, by remembering Becky Fox, another church member who had recently been diagnosed with cancer, and I in their prayers.  Again..out of my comfort zone.  But, I took a deep breath, and knew God needed to use me right then. 

I won’t go into a lot of details on the treatments and medical procedures.  Truly it could have been a lot worse.  God has held me in his hand throughout this year and I am a different and maybe a better person today than a year ago.  But I have learned some lessons that I want to share with you.

1.    Hug the people you love and make sure they know it.  It has crossed my mind several times in the past year that this may be the last time I see people on this earth.  I am not trying to be morbid.  But at least I know I’m not immortal.  I think we forget sometimes there are no guarantees there will be a tomorrow.   So many of us shy away from telling the people we care about that we love them.   God really wants us to share this, maybe more than anything else.  So whether you are Joe Cool, too tough for emotions or Miss Prim and Proper, let your guard down.  You can’t fake this, but you can cross the comfort line zone here. 

2.    Speaking of which, remember that cancer is not contagious.  It interesting to see how your friends react to the diagnosis.  Some are drawn to help and some quickly turn away.  I theorize that enthusiastic people shy away from anything that is not positive.  I understand, I think I was one of those people until this year.  Not that I’m not positive now.  It’s just that I understand my own limitations. 

3.    Thank God for each day.  Time flies.  We all face this trap.  Take a minute, thank God for today, and enjoy this beautiful earth we share. 

4.    Open your heart to the people who want to help.  Our community is gracious, helpful, giving, and understanding.  They want to help.  My natural reaction is “I can handle it myself.”  As Pastor Marc talked about a few weeks ago, I needed to step out my boat and have faith that God would keep me safe.  I did, and people came.  They took care of my family, my dog, my house.  They came and came and came and filled my house with love and the holy spirit.  It’s selfish to not let them help.  Open your heart.

5.    Don’t stop living your life.  The best advice my doctor gave me was to not stop doing the things I love.  He said, “I’ll give you some great medicine, but the best medicine is surrounding yourself with the things you love to do”  I’ve done this.  I blessed with so many opportunities God has given me. 

6.    Finally and I think most importantly.  I want each of you to have as much faith in your prayers for yourself as you do when you pray for others.  So many people have come up to me and told me they are praying for me.  It’s humbling, amazing, and truly overwhelming at times.  I can tell people are totally committed to “making me better”.   Yet at times I wonder if they are as confident in trusting their own needs with God.  How faithful are you?  Do you trust God to answer your prayers?  Do you pray with the same intensity and confidence for yourself as you do for others?  Are you “ALL IN”?  At this point I believe I'm in God’s hands.  I’m not stressed.  Every day is a blessing.  I have wonderful friends, a loving family and a community of caring and gracious caretakers and doctors.  


7.     So you may be asking how can I help.  Naturally you can continue to pray.  Another way is to support the American Cancer Society.  For the next two months I have volunteered to help the American Cancer Society fund raise in their Coaches vs  Cancer program.  I’m joining 10 other business leaders to help spread the message and raise funds.  For example, did you know that the American Cancer Society will provide rooms to families with a member getting hospital treatment?  I didn’t know that.  It’s a wonderful organization focused on research and supporting patients and families with cancer.  I’m blessed to have a great family and all of you as well.  However for those that don’t have support,  the American Cancer Society helps to fill the gap. The website to donate is www.main.acsevents.org/goto/toddsalen


Friday, January 27, 2017

Organizing a Philanthropy Project

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Several years ago Sue Grey, the Executive Director of the Champaign Branch of the United Way and I sat down to write a guide for local groups wanting to send up service projects.  We both have had good and bad experiences working with local groups who had high enthusiasm but low organizational motivation.  The following is the road map we developed which I think has held the test of time.  This particular version is spotlighting my fraternity however the principals are the same for any organization,

Phi Kappa Psi Fraternity
“The Great Joy of Serving Others…”
Suggestions for planning and executing a successful service project.
The motto of the Phi Kappa Psi Fraternity is, "The Great Joy of Serving Others." These are not empty words, but something that we all strive for and value. Of course, performing a service project with a group of your closest friends should at least be fun; but the knowledge that you made a difference -- that you changed someone else's life for the better in even a small way is one of the most rewarding and uplifting feelings one could ever hope to experience.
With this in mind, chapters across the country work to put together philanthropy projects in order to give back to their communities.  This mission is critically important as agencies and community organizations are constantly grappling with reduced donations and varying governmental allocations from year to year.

Whether we are raising money through fund raisers like walk-a-thons, spaghetti suppers and raffles, or we are rolling up our sleeves to pitch in building houses, raking leaves or picking up trash, the community service we ask our members to participate in needs to be well thought out, well prepared and ultimately a good experience for all involved.  For many of your members the event you plan may be their first time serving others and, if handled poorly, it may be their last! 
Our hope is that these suggestions will provide you with a road map to maximize the potential for a positive experience of executing a service project; or any event for that matter.  It’s your job as the event planner to make sure everyone walks away with a positive experience; the agency you are serving, the community and the members who participate.  Here are some tips to help your next community service event run more smoothly.
Line Up a Planning Committee:

Identify a lead person: This person will be coordinating the event and will need to be willing to take the lead and make sure things get done. They will manage resources, ideas and information to make the project work for their group and campus.
Create a team: The team should also consist of people willing to take a lead role in making this project happen. They will need to be able to work together and take on different roles and jobs to make sure that all the different parts of the project come together.
Determine team roles: Each member of the team should be willing to take on a certain objective such as coordinating transportation, coordinating lunch, etc. They should make it their personal objective to get that task completed for the day of service. They could find other people to help them as well.

Select a charity or agency:

This may be the most critical step in the process!

The national fraternity has recently entered into a partnering agreement with the Boys and Girls Clubs of America (BGCA).  Accordingly, it is strongly recommended that each chapter connect with their local BGCA organization and determine the best ways that the chapter resources will interface with the local BGCA needs; and that at least one of its annual service events be in partnership with BGCA.  Helpful guidelines are available from the National Staff.  But don’t let “The Great Joy of Serving Others” stop there, consider multiple service events or projects.  

Choosing the person or agency you serve will determine the level of success you achieve.  If you casually choose a beneficiary, you will casually support it.  If you carefully select a charity you will carefully plan and execute your event.  The more you personally invest in this choice, the more you will receive, your members will receive and the more you will eventually give back. 

Do your homework – you may ask, “Where do you start?” 

1.     Read the Internet or local newspaper and look for agencies in need.  There are stories every day about groups getting the news about budget cuts. 
2.     Talk to your volunteer coordinator at your school.  They receive emails and updates about needs in the community. 
3.     Call your local United Way office.  They also have lists of projects and agencies in need. 
4.     Find your local service club and volunteer your service.  Rotary International, Lions Club and Kiwanis all have chapters in your community and they all have service projects they support. 
5.     Call your local park district.  They can turn you on to youth programs, park improvements or other projects in need. 
6.     Call your local church.  Churches work directly with families and agencies in need and can tie you into projects already in development. 
7.     Stop by the YMCA.  YMCA’s serve 1000’s of youth and families. 
8.     Call your local school district office.  School districts need mentors, teaching assistants, coaches, referees and supervisors.  They also have their own projects that need manpower and money.

More on making it personal:

Choosing the charity or agency you support can be an easy.  Everyone knows there is a need for money with the American Cancer Society or Muscular Dystrophy.  You can stage your event, raise the money and cut the check and be done with it; or, you can make the service be truly meaningful for you and for your members. 

No matter whom you choose to serve, one of your roles as the group leader is to facilitate introducing your members to a lifetime of serving others.  By this time in your life, you likely have already experienced that when you are able to connect personally to an issue it becomes a much more meaningful venture.  For example, go and watch a professional baseball game and you will enjoy the experience; go out to dinner with Derek Jeter after the game and you will probably never forget that day!  Your job is to create “Derek Jeter moments” in your service projects.
 
So, how do you do that?  Simply put, connect with someone in need and bring them to your chapter.  If you plan to support Coaches vs. Cancer, invite the coach to come meet the chapter in advance of the event.  Let him or her tell you why they are involved.  Better yet, find a cancer survivor through your local American Cancer Society agency and have them talk about how research has saved their life.  Every organization has a personal story. 

Muscular Dystrophy Association has families with children getting local help.  If you are doing a Habitat for Humanity build, meet the family and let them share how your work will change their lives forever.  The key is, ask the organization “how can I make this event more personal for my members?”  They will point you in the right direction and once you go down that path, staging the event will be easier and participation will be greater.  Your members will not only know what they are working for, but also WHO they are working for.  And they will be more willing to do it next year and the year after as well if you make it personal.

Selecting a Project/Event/Theme:  

The national fraternity has recently entered into a partnering agreement with the Boys and Girls Clubs of America (BGCA).  Accordingly, it is strongly recommended that each chapter connect with their local BGCA organization and determine the best ways that the chapter resources will interface with the local BGCA needs.  Helpful guidelines are available from the National Staff.

Determine whether there are any existing or “legacy” events of either the organization or your chapter that can be utilized for the current purpose.  For instance, if your chapter has an annual fundraising event – like a Phi Psi 500, or a mud volleyball tournament – make your selected organization the beneficiary of that event.

If your selected organization has its own legacy event, determine how your chapter can best participate considering its size and ability. If their community event conflicts with your school calendar or other activities, consider having your own fundraising event with the proceeds going to the organization.

There are an infinite number of organizations that would welcome your dedicated involvement and an infinite number of ways to be involved.  Choose something your chapter enjoys:

·         Running/walking -- Start a 5 K race or a walk-a-thon.
·         Basketball -- How about a 3-on-3 tourney or free throw contest?
·         Music -- A Battle of the Bands with admission fees,
·         Eating -- Spaghetti supper, pancake breakfast, fish fry or just a simple hamburger barbeque. 
·         Something unique -- A rock, paper, scissor contest. 

The key is, if its fun for you, you will be more willing to put in the time it takes to organize it properly

Service Event Planning:

Planning your own event may prove to be the most challenging part of the whole project, because it will need to be a very deliberate process to make the most of the experience.

Create a notebook: Create notebook that can be passed on from project leader to project leader with contact info and a history of what’s been done and attempted; of what has worked and what didn’t work! 

This will save hours of time and planning energy if members know what has happened in the past.  If you plan to do the same thing again, or work with the same organization or project again, take the necessary time afterwards to outline any “lessons learned.”  Include the agency staff if you can.  Their perspective is important.

The best way to get a good start on the next event is to really resolve any issues from the last one.  You don’t want to make the same mistake twice.


Defining the project: You will need to define the goals of the project, as well as the nature of what the group will be doing to achieve these goals.

Over-Deliver on your commitment:

Local agencies, especially in college towns, get frustrated when groups lay out a plan to help and then don’t deliver on their promises.  When you are in the planning process don’t promise that 50 guys will show up, just because you have 50 members who may show up.  If you expect that 10 will be there, plan for 10 and then plan extra jobs in the event more show up.   Ultimately you should expect to “over-deliver” so the agency will be excited to work with you again, and eager to take the call of next year’s philanthropy chair. 

On the other end, if you are planning to bring 10 and 100 show up, you haven’t done your job either.  While the strong showing “looks good,” it will end up creating frustration for both you and the group you are helping.  If you have planned “extra jobs” you can handle extra people.  And you will be over-delivering!! 

Recruit volunteers: If you are really ambitious you could turn this task into a campus-wide event.

Arrange for resources: If the project requires resources, gather them in advance to make sure that everyone will be able to participate.

            Resourcing:

Your job is to make sure everyone gets the opportunity to serve who wants to serve.  One of the worst things you can do is plan an event, have 100 people show up willing to serve and then have half of them stand around waiting for something to do.  People who volunteer are there because they want to work! 

If participants aren’t asked to do anything, they will assume they aren’t needed and then go home, maybe never to return again for community service.  It’s your job to make sure they have a great experience serving others. 

Whether you are raking leaves, building a house or picking up trash, make sure you have a job for everyone.  If you plan on having 100 volunteers, plan 125 jobs!  In planning the job make sure you have all the equipment you need.  Paint brushes, paint, drop clothes, rollers, roller pans… make a list and check it three times.  Have someone else look at the list and double check it in case you have overlooked something. 

Don’t assume the organization has the supplies you will be working with.  Many don’t have the resources to provide basic supplies.  Plan to bring everything you need and make it part of your overall contribution! 

This is where the committee system truly helps you deliver great results. 

Things to consider:

1.     Plan transportation:
a.     How many people will be involved?
b.    Will you all be driving or using public transportation?
c.     Will you be able to get college vans?
d.    Will you need to get a bus?
e.     Be sure to have enough transportation for all those volunteering.  Do you have maps to the event site?  Have you arranged special parking? 

2.     Do you need food or water?
Strongly consider making arrangements for food and drinks -- EVERYONE LOVES FOOD! If it’s a day-long event, try to plan a lunch in the middle of it. Get together and pack lunches the day before or order some food to be delivered for lunch. Either way this is a great time to reflect and discuss a little about the project and what you are doing.

3.     Do you have all of the equipment you need?

4.     Consider whether designing a cool t-shirt for the participants would add to the event – this also creates separate sponsorship fundraising opportunities.

5.     Do you have emergency plans in case of bad weather or in case someone is hurt? 

6.     Will there be someone from the organization there to help or greet the members?

7.     Assign a photographer to memorialize the event and you participation.

Execution of your Plan: Communication is the key in the execution of any plan.

Orientation FIRST! You definitely want to have an orientation before the event -- to give some background information about the Common Commitment, the social issue you will be dealing with, and our history and mission as it relates to “The Great Joy of Serving Others”.

Outline your plans, expectations, safety, and other important info so everyone has a general idea of what to expect.  Consider doing this in the days leading up to the event! 

Anything you can do to head off the questions members may have when they first arrive will be beneficial. The very beginning of any project can be crazy! 20 people all wanting to ask a question at the same time will sidetrack the event and get you off to a slow start.  Even taking 5 minutes to tell everyone as a group “this is what we are doing, how we are doing it, and why we are doing it” will make it start and run smoothly. 

Orientation is often times overlooked but can lead to great success!

Perform a post-event evaluation: Evaluate the success of your event and the resources you used with ALL the participants, including the organization.

·         Connect the event to the larger national fraternity philanthropy initiatives -- discuss the big picture, and make the group realize they are part of something much bigger.
·         Include contacts for resources – within the organization and the community.
·         Include “lessons learned” – what things went well, and why; and what things did not work out, or how they might be improved.

Tell the world about it:  Finally don’t forget to tell the world about your service.  Not about your personal involvement, but about your chapter’s commitment to the community! 

·         E-mail your local newspaper news or feature editor or your local television station news director and let them know where you plan to serve, who you plan to serve and when you plan to serve!  Give them your contact information and an outline of your event.
·         Assign to take photos so you can post pictures on your chapter website, Facebook page or alumni newsletter.  While you’re at it, send photos and a short story to the national office for inclusion in the Shield. 
·         Further helpful guidelines for successful Public Relations are available from the National Staff. 
Your members will love to see their efforts recognized and be more willing serve again if they are noticed!

Summary:  Each of us will be asked to serve in our communities throughout our lives.  Creating positive models for service can provide the framework for all of your members to serve their communities throughout their lives.  Remember to carefully choose organizations to serve, to make it a personal experience, to select events you and your members enjoy doing and, finally, to prepare and execute a plan which will make the opportunity to serve a pleasant and rewarding one. 
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Model Planning Timeline for Service Events:

60 days before the event (suggested minimum)
·         Line Up Committee
·         Choose Leader(s)
·         Choose Members
·         Talk to staff about getting help with resources
·         Set out roles for each individual team member (transportation, food, etc.)
45 days before the event (suggested minimum)
·         Verify feasibility of proposed event.
·         Ensure the size of the group is not a problem.
30 days before the event (suggested minimum)
·         Event Plan is outlined in writing in notebook
·         Transportation Plan in place.
·         Supplies / resources identified.
·         T-shirts are made / ordered.
·         Meals are planned / arranged.
15 days before the event (suggested minimum)
·         Confirm day of event management details.
·         Confirm orientation of the event site
·         Plan refection session for after the event
Execute Event.
Within 3 days of the event (suggested maximum)
·         Refection session for after the event