Friday, January 27, 2017

Organizing a Philanthropy Project

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Several years ago Sue Grey, the Executive Director of the Champaign Branch of the United Way and I sat down to write a guide for local groups wanting to send up service projects.  We both have had good and bad experiences working with local groups who had high enthusiasm but low organizational motivation.  The following is the road map we developed which I think has held the test of time.  This particular version is spotlighting my fraternity however the principals are the same for any organization,

Phi Kappa Psi Fraternity
“The Great Joy of Serving Others…”
Suggestions for planning and executing a successful service project.
The motto of the Phi Kappa Psi Fraternity is, "The Great Joy of Serving Others." These are not empty words, but something that we all strive for and value. Of course, performing a service project with a group of your closest friends should at least be fun; but the knowledge that you made a difference -- that you changed someone else's life for the better in even a small way is one of the most rewarding and uplifting feelings one could ever hope to experience.
With this in mind, chapters across the country work to put together philanthropy projects in order to give back to their communities.  This mission is critically important as agencies and community organizations are constantly grappling with reduced donations and varying governmental allocations from year to year.

Whether we are raising money through fund raisers like walk-a-thons, spaghetti suppers and raffles, or we are rolling up our sleeves to pitch in building houses, raking leaves or picking up trash, the community service we ask our members to participate in needs to be well thought out, well prepared and ultimately a good experience for all involved.  For many of your members the event you plan may be their first time serving others and, if handled poorly, it may be their last! 
Our hope is that these suggestions will provide you with a road map to maximize the potential for a positive experience of executing a service project; or any event for that matter.  It’s your job as the event planner to make sure everyone walks away with a positive experience; the agency you are serving, the community and the members who participate.  Here are some tips to help your next community service event run more smoothly.
Line Up a Planning Committee:

Identify a lead person: This person will be coordinating the event and will need to be willing to take the lead and make sure things get done. They will manage resources, ideas and information to make the project work for their group and campus.
Create a team: The team should also consist of people willing to take a lead role in making this project happen. They will need to be able to work together and take on different roles and jobs to make sure that all the different parts of the project come together.
Determine team roles: Each member of the team should be willing to take on a certain objective such as coordinating transportation, coordinating lunch, etc. They should make it their personal objective to get that task completed for the day of service. They could find other people to help them as well.

Select a charity or agency:

This may be the most critical step in the process!

The national fraternity has recently entered into a partnering agreement with the Boys and Girls Clubs of America (BGCA).  Accordingly, it is strongly recommended that each chapter connect with their local BGCA organization and determine the best ways that the chapter resources will interface with the local BGCA needs; and that at least one of its annual service events be in partnership with BGCA.  Helpful guidelines are available from the National Staff.  But don’t let “The Great Joy of Serving Others” stop there, consider multiple service events or projects.  

Choosing the person or agency you serve will determine the level of success you achieve.  If you casually choose a beneficiary, you will casually support it.  If you carefully select a charity you will carefully plan and execute your event.  The more you personally invest in this choice, the more you will receive, your members will receive and the more you will eventually give back. 

Do your homework – you may ask, “Where do you start?” 

1.     Read the Internet or local newspaper and look for agencies in need.  There are stories every day about groups getting the news about budget cuts. 
2.     Talk to your volunteer coordinator at your school.  They receive emails and updates about needs in the community. 
3.     Call your local United Way office.  They also have lists of projects and agencies in need. 
4.     Find your local service club and volunteer your service.  Rotary International, Lions Club and Kiwanis all have chapters in your community and they all have service projects they support. 
5.     Call your local park district.  They can turn you on to youth programs, park improvements or other projects in need. 
6.     Call your local church.  Churches work directly with families and agencies in need and can tie you into projects already in development. 
7.     Stop by the YMCA.  YMCA’s serve 1000’s of youth and families. 
8.     Call your local school district office.  School districts need mentors, teaching assistants, coaches, referees and supervisors.  They also have their own projects that need manpower and money.

More on making it personal:

Choosing the charity or agency you support can be an easy.  Everyone knows there is a need for money with the American Cancer Society or Muscular Dystrophy.  You can stage your event, raise the money and cut the check and be done with it; or, you can make the service be truly meaningful for you and for your members. 

No matter whom you choose to serve, one of your roles as the group leader is to facilitate introducing your members to a lifetime of serving others.  By this time in your life, you likely have already experienced that when you are able to connect personally to an issue it becomes a much more meaningful venture.  For example, go and watch a professional baseball game and you will enjoy the experience; go out to dinner with Derek Jeter after the game and you will probably never forget that day!  Your job is to create “Derek Jeter moments” in your service projects.
 
So, how do you do that?  Simply put, connect with someone in need and bring them to your chapter.  If you plan to support Coaches vs. Cancer, invite the coach to come meet the chapter in advance of the event.  Let him or her tell you why they are involved.  Better yet, find a cancer survivor through your local American Cancer Society agency and have them talk about how research has saved their life.  Every organization has a personal story. 

Muscular Dystrophy Association has families with children getting local help.  If you are doing a Habitat for Humanity build, meet the family and let them share how your work will change their lives forever.  The key is, ask the organization “how can I make this event more personal for my members?”  They will point you in the right direction and once you go down that path, staging the event will be easier and participation will be greater.  Your members will not only know what they are working for, but also WHO they are working for.  And they will be more willing to do it next year and the year after as well if you make it personal.

Selecting a Project/Event/Theme:  

The national fraternity has recently entered into a partnering agreement with the Boys and Girls Clubs of America (BGCA).  Accordingly, it is strongly recommended that each chapter connect with their local BGCA organization and determine the best ways that the chapter resources will interface with the local BGCA needs.  Helpful guidelines are available from the National Staff.

Determine whether there are any existing or “legacy” events of either the organization or your chapter that can be utilized for the current purpose.  For instance, if your chapter has an annual fundraising event – like a Phi Psi 500, or a mud volleyball tournament – make your selected organization the beneficiary of that event.

If your selected organization has its own legacy event, determine how your chapter can best participate considering its size and ability. If their community event conflicts with your school calendar or other activities, consider having your own fundraising event with the proceeds going to the organization.

There are an infinite number of organizations that would welcome your dedicated involvement and an infinite number of ways to be involved.  Choose something your chapter enjoys:

·         Running/walking -- Start a 5 K race or a walk-a-thon.
·         Basketball -- How about a 3-on-3 tourney or free throw contest?
·         Music -- A Battle of the Bands with admission fees,
·         Eating -- Spaghetti supper, pancake breakfast, fish fry or just a simple hamburger barbeque. 
·         Something unique -- A rock, paper, scissor contest. 

The key is, if its fun for you, you will be more willing to put in the time it takes to organize it properly

Service Event Planning:

Planning your own event may prove to be the most challenging part of the whole project, because it will need to be a very deliberate process to make the most of the experience.

Create a notebook: Create notebook that can be passed on from project leader to project leader with contact info and a history of what’s been done and attempted; of what has worked and what didn’t work! 

This will save hours of time and planning energy if members know what has happened in the past.  If you plan to do the same thing again, or work with the same organization or project again, take the necessary time afterwards to outline any “lessons learned.”  Include the agency staff if you can.  Their perspective is important.

The best way to get a good start on the next event is to really resolve any issues from the last one.  You don’t want to make the same mistake twice.


Defining the project: You will need to define the goals of the project, as well as the nature of what the group will be doing to achieve these goals.

Over-Deliver on your commitment:

Local agencies, especially in college towns, get frustrated when groups lay out a plan to help and then don’t deliver on their promises.  When you are in the planning process don’t promise that 50 guys will show up, just because you have 50 members who may show up.  If you expect that 10 will be there, plan for 10 and then plan extra jobs in the event more show up.   Ultimately you should expect to “over-deliver” so the agency will be excited to work with you again, and eager to take the call of next year’s philanthropy chair. 

On the other end, if you are planning to bring 10 and 100 show up, you haven’t done your job either.  While the strong showing “looks good,” it will end up creating frustration for both you and the group you are helping.  If you have planned “extra jobs” you can handle extra people.  And you will be over-delivering!! 

Recruit volunteers: If you are really ambitious you could turn this task into a campus-wide event.

Arrange for resources: If the project requires resources, gather them in advance to make sure that everyone will be able to participate.

            Resourcing:

Your job is to make sure everyone gets the opportunity to serve who wants to serve.  One of the worst things you can do is plan an event, have 100 people show up willing to serve and then have half of them stand around waiting for something to do.  People who volunteer are there because they want to work! 

If participants aren’t asked to do anything, they will assume they aren’t needed and then go home, maybe never to return again for community service.  It’s your job to make sure they have a great experience serving others. 

Whether you are raking leaves, building a house or picking up trash, make sure you have a job for everyone.  If you plan on having 100 volunteers, plan 125 jobs!  In planning the job make sure you have all the equipment you need.  Paint brushes, paint, drop clothes, rollers, roller pans… make a list and check it three times.  Have someone else look at the list and double check it in case you have overlooked something. 

Don’t assume the organization has the supplies you will be working with.  Many don’t have the resources to provide basic supplies.  Plan to bring everything you need and make it part of your overall contribution! 

This is where the committee system truly helps you deliver great results. 

Things to consider:

1.     Plan transportation:
a.     How many people will be involved?
b.    Will you all be driving or using public transportation?
c.     Will you be able to get college vans?
d.    Will you need to get a bus?
e.     Be sure to have enough transportation for all those volunteering.  Do you have maps to the event site?  Have you arranged special parking? 

2.     Do you need food or water?
Strongly consider making arrangements for food and drinks -- EVERYONE LOVES FOOD! If it’s a day-long event, try to plan a lunch in the middle of it. Get together and pack lunches the day before or order some food to be delivered for lunch. Either way this is a great time to reflect and discuss a little about the project and what you are doing.

3.     Do you have all of the equipment you need?

4.     Consider whether designing a cool t-shirt for the participants would add to the event – this also creates separate sponsorship fundraising opportunities.

5.     Do you have emergency plans in case of bad weather or in case someone is hurt? 

6.     Will there be someone from the organization there to help or greet the members?

7.     Assign a photographer to memorialize the event and you participation.

Execution of your Plan: Communication is the key in the execution of any plan.

Orientation FIRST! You definitely want to have an orientation before the event -- to give some background information about the Common Commitment, the social issue you will be dealing with, and our history and mission as it relates to “The Great Joy of Serving Others”.

Outline your plans, expectations, safety, and other important info so everyone has a general idea of what to expect.  Consider doing this in the days leading up to the event! 

Anything you can do to head off the questions members may have when they first arrive will be beneficial. The very beginning of any project can be crazy! 20 people all wanting to ask a question at the same time will sidetrack the event and get you off to a slow start.  Even taking 5 minutes to tell everyone as a group “this is what we are doing, how we are doing it, and why we are doing it” will make it start and run smoothly. 

Orientation is often times overlooked but can lead to great success!

Perform a post-event evaluation: Evaluate the success of your event and the resources you used with ALL the participants, including the organization.

·         Connect the event to the larger national fraternity philanthropy initiatives -- discuss the big picture, and make the group realize they are part of something much bigger.
·         Include contacts for resources – within the organization and the community.
·         Include “lessons learned” – what things went well, and why; and what things did not work out, or how they might be improved.

Tell the world about it:  Finally don’t forget to tell the world about your service.  Not about your personal involvement, but about your chapter’s commitment to the community! 

·         E-mail your local newspaper news or feature editor or your local television station news director and let them know where you plan to serve, who you plan to serve and when you plan to serve!  Give them your contact information and an outline of your event.
·         Assign to take photos so you can post pictures on your chapter website, Facebook page or alumni newsletter.  While you’re at it, send photos and a short story to the national office for inclusion in the Shield. 
·         Further helpful guidelines for successful Public Relations are available from the National Staff. 
Your members will love to see their efforts recognized and be more willing serve again if they are noticed!

Summary:  Each of us will be asked to serve in our communities throughout our lives.  Creating positive models for service can provide the framework for all of your members to serve their communities throughout their lives.  Remember to carefully choose organizations to serve, to make it a personal experience, to select events you and your members enjoy doing and, finally, to prepare and execute a plan which will make the opportunity to serve a pleasant and rewarding one. 
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Model Planning Timeline for Service Events:

60 days before the event (suggested minimum)
·         Line Up Committee
·         Choose Leader(s)
·         Choose Members
·         Talk to staff about getting help with resources
·         Set out roles for each individual team member (transportation, food, etc.)
45 days before the event (suggested minimum)
·         Verify feasibility of proposed event.
·         Ensure the size of the group is not a problem.
30 days before the event (suggested minimum)
·         Event Plan is outlined in writing in notebook
·         Transportation Plan in place.
·         Supplies / resources identified.
·         T-shirts are made / ordered.
·         Meals are planned / arranged.
15 days before the event (suggested minimum)
·         Confirm day of event management details.
·         Confirm orientation of the event site
·         Plan refection session for after the event
Execute Event.
Within 3 days of the event (suggested maximum)
·         Refection session for after the event




Tuesday, December 27, 2016

A Slightly Different Christmas Story. (Or how I spent my Christmas Vacation)

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So my family is pretty much a turn off the tv on Christmas day kind of family. Me being the radical I always have to find a way to break with tradition.  After all my roots are in Fraternity life and as I always say when I speak about Greek Life a "tradition is what we did last year"...

Ha, ok, back to reality.  Why the discussion on tv on Christmas day?  Because I got to spend not only Christmas day, but entire Christmas weekend camped in front of the tv at Carle Hospital.  Why you may ask?  Well you see it was sort of like this... (flashback to last Thursday night)

I was watching tv on Thursday night and I had a sharp pain in my chest just below my breastbone.  It was intense for about a minute.  Then it dropped off. 

A few hours later I had another.  My doctor's nurse has told me to "report all side effects" no matter how minor during the keytruda immuno therapy test.  So I called Friday morning to report the news.

They called back an hour or so later and asked to come by the ER to run some tests.  An EKG to rule out heart issues and blood and c scan to rule out other issues.

So, I did, thinking this would be a three hour visit.  But....they found elevated enzyme levels in my liver and an apparent blockage of some liver ducts.  Two weeks ago I had the same blood test and all was normal.  So this came on fast.  
Dr. Science Fiction (I think I heard the nurse call him "Bones") came in my ER room and said he wanted to put in a stint to drain my fluids in my liver.  And he would prefer to do it that day since A. he was there and B. he didn't want to risk having it be an emergency and needing to come back Christmas Eve or Christmas Day.  So he asked me to hang on so he could see if he could put together a surgical team. (I suspect they may have been flying the Enterprise at warp speed a few light years away to some inter-galactic Cabo San Lucas and the flight was leaving later tonight.)

An hour later they said, we have a team together and we are checking you in. Oh boy, my first thought was, "how is Santa going to find me?"


I got an awesome room on the 6th, just a little larger than my condo.  I thought, hmm....not so bad!  The doc came back and then they rolled me down to the Star Trek operating room about 10:30 PM.  It had a 90 inch HD screen. All kind of floating robotic tools and I think a James T. Kirk command chair.  

I was wide awake and could see the scope a little going in and out of me!  They had some great music on and we were joking throughout.  So except for the doctor poking my side with a sharp knife and wanting to borough into my liver, it was a decent experience.

I got back to my suite about 1 AM and the party began.  Well it wasn't really a party, but you know when you have any kind of surgery the nurses all want to show their friends your stitches and such.  I am pretty sure my drainage tube was shared on several snapchat sites throughout the night, some nurse networking I guess.

To paraphrase Cat Stevens, "Morning was broken" and a new doctor, not with Starfleet I don't think, came in to share the good news that the surgery went well, ( I think she saw the Snapchat posts) and the even better news, I get to spend Christmas Eve at Carle!!!  Who could have imagined such a perfect holiday spectacular!  This year was "Big Christmas" for my family.  Since my family has at last count, over 100,000 people, some wise person, probably my step mother June, determined that we would gather every other year in some hallowed place (usually a Chicago suburb) and spend the holiday together.  We are not permitted to miss Big Christmas unless we are well, you know, not above ground.  So my first reaction to the doctor was she better call June.  I don't know what happened, but as you can probably guess, I missed big Christmas.  

It wasn't a terrible Christmas Eve.  The doc gave me some morphine and the world was good! I thought I saw a bright shining star in the sky, somewhere over the stables in Rantoul.  Next thing I know I have about 2500 texts, so answering those filled the rest of my day.  Oh, Dr. Science Fiction came in as well, I think he may have used the transporter as I didn't really see him walk in or out.  And he shared the even better news, I couldn't go home for Christmas day either.  I don't think he cleared that with June or even my sister Kristina who plans the order of Christmas present opening sometime in July of each year.  When you are as brilliant as she is you have to use your free time wisely. Christmas is an important day for her and therefore it gets high priority. 

A quick aside.  Always one to take on the little guy to support corporate America, my latest crusade is to scrutinize food trucks in Champaign in favor of the brick and mortar restaurant owners.  Not to get off on a serious note, but basically I have great respect for the men and women who have revitalized downtown Champaign and made it a truly endearing place to hang out, by spending millions on building renovations and still spending thousands on property taxes and mortgages to help make our hanging out time more fun.  So a writer with the local paper, the News-Gazette, chose Saturday to publish the interview with me on my opinion.  Rumor was the food truck owners were assembling and had an all points bulletin out to capture and contain me. Something about grilling me on their open flames. (The local police were supporting and protecting the do-nut truck)  Anyway my hospital captivity and dedicated nursing staff protected me from their attack.  

Christmas in the Presidential Suite. Christmas Eve while my family was gorging on delicacies and wonderful sweets and cordials, I was enjoying a clear liquid diet.  In my family a clear liquid diet is Chardonney and Vodka.   The hospital did not have that on the menu.  So, chicken broth and Italian ice for me!  I may be the only person in my family who lost weight this past weekend! 

Did I say the doc put me on Steroids?  I had the immediate urge to go pump some iron.  However the port between my ribs helped me remember that I should put off lifting heavy objects for a day or two.  Here's something I didn't know.  Steroids keep you awake.  So I wasn't very tired come bed time.  Panic set in.  We all know that Santa won't come if you are awake. And with him needing to search for me at the hospital I didn't want to risk any chance he would fly by.  However, I was mostly awake and he didn't come. :(  Maybe I wasn't as good a boy as I thought.

I think I saw him fly over though.

Morning came again the doc said, no going home today, (why would I want to with all this luxury?) however, she was moving me to a normal but slightly restricted diet.  HALLELUJAH!!  You see the hospital had delivered a "Christmas Menu" with Prime Rib and Mashed Sweet Potatoes and Pumpkin Pie and I was ready to dig in.   However.....my restriction was a low fat diet.  Who knew this liver enzyme they were draining was the one that processed fatty foods.  Dang!!

My potential menu for the day was a little better than chicken broth, so I was happy.  Doc also said "I am hoping to send you home tomorrow but no promises."  What the doc didn't know was that I have friends in Black ops and a nephew who is secretly a super hero. They were planning a break out that may happen on Christmas day but at the latest would be the next day.  Amazing what the can be put together at a moment’s notice.  As the nurses were giving me wonderful care I warned them about the potential for a break out and that they should just stay away from the windows if they heard the chopper.

Christmas day was ok. One of my closest friends, Jim Acheson came by.  One of the truly great mentors I have had in my life. (Blame him for my undying love for my fraternity). And a little later the undergraduate President of my chapter came by.  I can honestly say I have never spent Christmas day with our undergraduate President, (except when I was President of course).  He brought Werther’s  This man is destined for greatness.  He is moving quickly up the ladder of “greatest presidents ever” much to the dismay of past presidents Mike O’Neill, Ryan Flanagan and Chris Gapinske.  I think you could be elected POTUS, (that’s President of the United States for the uneducated), with bags a Werther’s.  There is a lesson here for the next Hillary Clinton wanna be. (Maybe the Donald has stock in Werther's, I may be on to something)  But while I had him there we worked on an agenda for our next retreat in January.  HAHA, I’m obsessed, I can’t put fraternity aside even on a holiday.

As I said earlier who knew there were so many good movies and shows on that day.  John Wayne cowboy marathon on AMC. Beauty and the Beast on ABC.  It was just wonderful.  Who needs Christmas?  Oh wait, they were on because it was Christmas. 

As I enjoyed my two feasts during the day, keeping a watchful eye while listening for whirling rotors, I thought what can I do to help these stranded workers have a better day.  Thus, my afternoon stroll through Carle materialized.  I just started walking, IV attached and drainage bag draining and stopped and thanked every nurse and doctor and maintenance worker and house keeper for coming to work and helping to make my holiday a little better. (They all thought I was nuts and should be locked away, luckily I didn't meet a psychologist)  

The evening was quiet.   I thought I saw a few shepherds and a couple of wise looking men going to the neo-natel floor, but it may have been the sugar rush in my head.  (I had the pumpkin pie! Haha, don't tell the doctor)  

Monday morning arrived.  First thing I hear is that Arlo, my super hero nephew will be arriving by noon.  I warn the nurses. Second, the doc says I'm going home for sure.  She gives me 100 instructions and lots of meds for home use, and of course I remember one thing, I'm going home.  Fortunately she typed it all up and gave me a copy.  I'll read it in July sometime.  Secretly I think she got word of Arlo coming and wanted to high tail it out before he got there.  Wise woman.  Doctors are not stupid for the most part.  

So I wait patiently, (ha, get it, a patient being patient) and only 5 hours later they are prepared to send me home.  After three stays in the hospital I have come to learn that noon is the check-out time and they feel like they haven’t provided you with your money's worth if you leave even one minute early. Note to hospital, I'm ok on getting gyped on my night's stay. Shoot you can kick me out at 6 AM before breakfast.  Well, maybe 7:30, the biscuits and gravy are pretty good there.  

So....lessons from the weekend.
1. I'm glad we caught this early.  The real doctor, my oncologist, thinks it was a reaction to the immuno therapy drug and that we caught it before it did serious damage to the liver. One of the problems with immuno therapy is sometimes the drug can't tell the difference between the tumor and other organs like your liver, heart, lungs, etc.  (Just minor organs :)) So you have if you have a problem you need to catch it fast.
2. We need to figure out a new strategy to attack this tumor. Good news is the testing this week showed it hasn't gotten any larger since August. 
3. The staff at Carle are angels.  So many of them selflessly are there over the holidays to take care of patients.  It reminds me that there are 1000's just in our community alone in health care, police, fire, city workers, etc etc who must spend time away from their families.  I won't forget that lesson next time I'm with my own family
4. Those Star Trek doctors and operating rooms are pretty cool.  I suspect the new Carle/UI Med school will be focused on training more medical students for Starfleet. 
5. Super Arlo has magic powers.  Heaven and earth moves in front of him.  I'm so lucky he is my nephew! 

Merry Christmas to you and “Live long, and prosper.”

Monday, November 21, 2016

Thankful for so many things this year.

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I have always enjoyed Thanksgiving week.  Good food, time with friends and family and just a day or two to catch my breath from an overbooked summer or busy back to school season.  However I don't think I could be much more thankful than I am this year.  Let's start with the obvious.  If you have been following my story or keeping in touch you know that about 11 months ago a local doctor let me know I was suffering from stage 4 cancer.  I had colon and duodenal cancer that had spread to my liver and pancreas.  He prescribed major surgery to remove 6 feet of colon and then 8 months of chemotherapy.  

At the time I wasn't so sure I would be around for this year's Thanksgiving.  But, here I am and here I intend to stay.  I have followed doctors orders and feel better than I have in over a year.  And of course, ready to enjoy another turkey dinner.  The prognosis is good, even though I still have one of the two cancers in me.  (The liver cancer is gone, the pancreatic cancer was never there and the colon cancer seems to be on hold).  

This year has reminded me though just how blessed I am.  In church on Sunday our Pastor mentioned one of my favorite scripture passages, Matthew 14:29 when Peter steps out of the boat onto the water, then realizes what has done and sinks in the water.  Peter doesn't have faith that Jesus will protect him and allow him to continue to walk on the water.  

This passage reminds me how this year has been for me as well we reminding me of just how thankful I am.  First, throughout this year I have maintained my faith that God has a plan for me.  My job was to stay connected with him and follow the path he laid out.  This included the treatments and regaining my strength. It also required me to step out of my own "boat", my comfort zone, and allow people who wanted to help to provide that help.  The plan could be compared to continuing my walk on the water once I stepped out the boat.  

Second, I have been thankful for the reminder of just how blessed I am to have such a wonderful family.  Everyone came to my aid and made sure I was in a position to heal and take care of myself, when the time was right. 

In addition I have some incredible friends.  Whether they are my doggie play group friends, fraternity brothers, church families or theater volunteers, so many people stepped up and brought dinners, ran errands or drove me around when needed,  I am truly blessed.  I could not begin to count the numbers of cards, emails, messages and thoughtful gifts I have gotten from this group young and old.  It certainly is a reminder of the hearts we touch in our normal daily lives.  

I am also reminded of the wonderful community I am a part of.  It seems where ever I go in town people are praying for me, or have asked their prayer groups at church to pray for me.  It also seems like thousands have taken up that charge and faithfully include me in their daily requests from God. This is most humbling as I hardly seem worthy of this kind of attention.

Included in my community are the people at work.  All have been supportive, patient and willing to lend a hand  It took some time to get back up to full speed and many have pitched in to fill in the gaps.  

So this Thursday when I sit down for my meal I'll say a prayer and make sure I remember everyone who has given me something to be thankful for this year.  It truly has allowed me to step out of the boat, my own comfort zone, and be faithfilled as I continue in this walk towards healing.  

Tuesday, March 29, 2016

My medical journal. Part something :)



Trip to Univ of Chicago Medicine

Round two of second opinions yesterday.  If you get two second opinions does one of those become the Third Opinion?  I'm open to your opinion on this :)
We went up to University of Chicago Hospital and met with Dr. Blaise Polite.  I had read his bio and opened our conversation with this question...."Why would anyone take Greek as a second language?"   He chuckled, knowing I must have done some research on him and informed me he has Greek heritage.  When I told him I did as well we became fast friends.
Dr. Polite is a very smart man, that is evident.  And he understands colon cancer, that is clear as well.  He offered many suggestions on what can happen next, perhaps as soon as 3 or 4 weeks from now.  I very much appreciated his sense of urgency.
One thing I have come to realize.  This may not be about finding a cure.  This is more about extending the time I have.  We have heard everything from 2 months to two years from the doctors.  Dr. Polite talked in terms of 4-5 years.  That's refreshing.
So it was a day well spent for sure, thanks for my sister Kristina for twisting my arm to go and sister Karen for taking me.  Also thanks to Matt Purnell for doing the driving from CU to the south side and back.
On a personal side I had lots of company in the past week.  Cousin Amy and her two kids Garrett and McKenzie, Cousin Dana and his son Brandon and Patrick Jiang, who was the first student from China I hosted.  It was so much fun to see everyone and catch up.
I also committed to producing Oklahoma for the Champaign Urbana Theater Company this summer.  Director Stephen Fiol asked me.  Talk about great medicine, Steve is just a joy to be around . My summer calendar is filling up and that's great medicine.  FYI, if you are reading this I may need you help covering expenses for the show, open your wallets :)   It's tax deductible!!

My thanks to all for their friendship and support.  I'm blessed to have you all in my life.

March Madness .... well not so mad!


Sorry it has been a while since an update.  And guess what, this update is from me!  Yes the patient lives.  And I must say I'm doing well.  It's March 18 today and I'm feeling really good.  Oh I had my second of maybe 12 chemo infusions on Wednesday.  I go every other week.  The infusion takes about 4 hours all in.  Then I get to wear a chemo bag for two days while the meds keep pouring in.  It's not too bad.  Side effects come on the weekend which is manageable.
So let's get to what is important.  This week I'm feeling better than i have since November.  I'm getting stronger and eating better than I have in a long time.  I've been working myself back to a full day at work.  I'm so lucky to have a supportive boss and co-workers.  Everyone understands that it takes time.  And by not overdoing it I'm getting back stronger and faster.
I've been setting some goals as well.  If you know me you know sitting still in not an option.  I'm eager to start lifting weights again, play golf, work on CUTC shows, help on Habitat Builds, etc.  I need to get moving.  Trust me I realize I'm not close to being cured and I may never be cancer free.  But attitude is great medicine.  And I have always had attitude :)
In the meantime, know I"m getting better.  I appreciate the support and Guanheng and I love the meals too!  Cooking is hard, just because of the aromas.   So a meal delivered once in awhile is a night of peace for me!
Thank you all for your prayers, you support.  I'm so lucky and truly blessed.

April 14 update

Yesterday was chemo session #4.  It's amazing how simple it is.  Go in, get comfortable, and they plug you in and fill you with meds.  Before you know it you are back home.   I always bring a movie and yesterday was "Oklahoma".   The movie starts with "Oh what a beautiful morning"    That was really true.  Lab tests came back with even better results than two weeks ago.  My scores are nearly normal for cancer detection and nutrition.  All indicating the chemo is working and the surgery designed to help me eat/retain vitamins, is all good. 
The past two weeks have been fun.  I saw two musicals, Fiddler on the Rood with one of my former actors Timothy Purnell at Uni High in town and then A Funny Thing Happened on the way to the Forum with two more of my favorite actors, Ryan Gossett and Alec Campbell and all time favorite director Suzanne Aldridge at Centennial High School.  Both shows were wonderful.  I'm producing Oklahoma this summer and hope all will audition and be in the show. 
No real issues with side effects.  And I started lifting weights again,  That's a milestone for sure.
I overbooked this weekend, working on a Habitat project with guys from my fraternity Saturday and then facilitating an I-Program for the UI Leadership Center on Sunday.  Sunday after chemo is normally my "bad day" so hopefully I won't feel too tired.   Oh well, bad planning on my part but I know it will be energizing.  So hopefully it all balances out.
Many thanks to Jean Huddleston and Linda Finfrock for bringing meals this week.  It's so helpful to have meals on chemo weeks as it's really hard for me to cook the day of and the next few days after chemo.  My appetite is good but the smells really get to me.  
My love to all who are supporting and praying for me!   We are making progress.  

Wednesday, January 27, 2016

Doing some heavy lifting for God

Going where God calls us

This year was the eighth time I have joined our mission trip team from my church, Savoy United Methodist Church.  Over those years I have joined our group on trips to Mexico, New Orleans, Carbondale, IL and the Denver area.  Each trip was rewarding.  More important, each trip challenged my faith, opened my eyes to others struggling in their faith journeys, and allowed me to connect with both our youth and adults participating in the trip.  I would not trade those weeks for anything.  One of the things that makes our trip unique is that we travel with another church.  Prior to this year we paired with the Wesley United Methodist Church in Macomb IL.  A friendship started about 40 years ago between two of our adult leaders led us to serving jointly.  This year we added a third church, Pekin United Methodist Church.  One of these two men is a Pastor and he was reassigned to Pekin last year, thus opening the door for adding the third church.

Pictured above is truly the Body of Christ at work.  Men from three different churches helping to protect a woman's land that was destroyed in a fire.  In fact 14,000 acres burned in the Black Forest, displacing over 500 families.  This property was owned by an older woman, Marie.  Over the course of a few days we cleared the land of brunt trees, filled a dumpster with melted steel from the fire, fixed the stables where 5 horses once roamed, however two were killed due to the fire, and built a shed for some of her possessions not damaged in the fire.

Marie and her husband owned many acres in the beautiful foothills of the Rockies.  They lived on a pine tree lined ranch just to the east of Colorado Springs.  One night in June 2014 a fire started a few miles from her house.  Probably started by campers who didn't wash out dinner coals, this fire spread over 14,000 acres, the worst fire in Colorado history.  Marie and her husband didn't have time to gather mementos, or really anything of value except for loading their horses into their trailer.  They drove several miles away from the fire and spent the night in their car, cold and concerned.  Over the next few days they moved from shelter to shelter.  Two of the horses died from the smoke.

Now nearly two years later, Marie was faced with an impossible obstacle.  The insurance company still had not settled her claim for the damages.  The county sent her a letter that if she did not clean up her land they would begin fining her and her husband.  With little money to do the work, she reached out to a friend who was an organizer in the Black Forest Clean Up operation.  Nancy was her name.  Nancy reached out to UMCOR, the United Methodist Relief organization with an office based in Denver.

The next day UMCOR called me and asked if our group would be willing to "change assignments" and go to work in the Black Forest.  I told them we would go wherever God called.  This being only 2 days before we were scheduled to arrive in Denver.  Said another way, a week before we arrived Nancy called UMCOR to see if there was a group of volunteers who could help and we were there to fill the need.

Our group of burly men went to rescue Marie.  Walking on a walker, this frail woman commanded the strength of a lion.  She mobilized us one way and another.  In two days the land was remarkably better.  But as in most mission trip work, it wasn't the work, but indeed the relationship built with Marie that was special.

Over lunch she told her story of the struggles she had faced in the past year.  She openly discussed the faith challenges she had. losing everything, praying to God for help, realizing he responded on his time and then finally when the threat of losing it all was real, had her prayers answered.  She touched each of our hearts, helping us all to understand that God had indeed sent us all to warm her heart and at least partially help to put a piece of her life back together.

We all walked away with this thought though.  God has a plan for each of us.  With patience we can understand his plan.  And if we let u\him lead us, no matter where we are,  he will reveal that plan.